We Filipinos have a love-hate relationship with the word S-E-X. For decades, we’ve been on the more conservative side, tiptoeing, trying not to mention it, or avoiding the conversation entirely. Sex has been one of those words we whisper more than when we swear — but we don’t have to.

Sex-positivity. What does that mean then? It’s simply having a healthy and positive attitude towards sex. It’s being able to talk freely about the act and one’s sexuality without getting judged, nor shamed, nor tabooed.

Now as we set the mood and give you a better understanding of being sex-positive, feel free to click play on Spotify or hear snippets of our consensual Repro Hits Playlist as the end of this page. 

• I’m beautiful in my way / ‘Cause God makes no mistakes / I’m on the right track, baby I was born this way…” – Born This Way by Lady Gaga
  First and foremost, you have to accept your body. Learn to appreciate all your flaws and imperfections. Know that you are beautiful and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Having a positive attitude towards your body is a big step towards being sex-positive.

• “I’m gonna put my body first / And love me so hard ’til it hurts…(I love me) Gonna love myself, no / I don’t need anybody else..” – Love Myself by Hailee Steinfield
  As the great RuPaul always says, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”. Love yourself first and put you first. Putting you first is not a bad thing, it’s actually essential. And also, you don’t need anyone else to make you feel whole and complete, girls and boys!

• “We got the afternoon / You got this room for two / One thing I’ve left to do / Discover me / Discovering you..” – Your Body is Wonderland by John Mayer
  Having sex involves a lot of discovery. Discovering your body, discovering your partner’s body, and knowing the things you like in bed. Being sex-positive means keeping an open mind to all these things that you and your partner explore and discover.

• “See if you deserve what comes next / I’m tellin’ you the way I like it, how I want it..” – God Is A Woman by Ariana Grande
  One of the main ideas of sex-positivity is not just looking at sex as a means to procreate but can be done for pleasure as well. Like Ari, don’t be shy and tell your partner what you like and how you like it!

• Up’s the only direction I see / As long as we keep this / Low, low, low, low, low, low, low, low-key / You ain’t even gotta lo- lo- lo- lo- lo- lo- lo-love me / Us in a king-size, keep it a secret – Lowkey by Niki
  Being sex-positive does not necessarily mean you need to be vocal about having sex. You don’t even need to have had sex to be one. It’s all about having a healthy attitude towards sex, not being judgmental and acknowleding that sexuality is fluid.

• “What a girl feels, what a girl likes / What a girl needs, what a girl wants..” – Come On Over Baby by Christina Aguilerra
  Shout out to all the guys out there! Take note, sex isn’t just about you getting off. It’s about your partner too! What she wants and what satisfies her as well. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable to both parties involved!

• “I want you the right way / I want you, and I want you to want me too /Just like I want you…” – I Want You by Marvin Gaye
  Let’s not forget the most important part of sex, CONSENT! Sex positivity is keeping an open mind and being judgment-free as long as it is happening between consenting adults! Remember, consent needs to be shown and no does not mean maybe!